Drawn or Driven?
It was pointed out to me, by my darling mother, that I am home to rest, and to re-coop, and to enjoy living for once. People have lives!I informed her that potential employers do not like to see 'gaps' of time on resumes.
Mom pulled my nose up off the proverbial grindstone and asked me if I was happy here. (Here being home, and not having dozens of rods in the fire at one time as I did back in high school and college). Well, yeah...
I had asked her to help me figure out what I want to do in life...I'm drawn to so many things, but I just can't figure out what would be best. [And to think I was the know-it-all who used to give such beautiful life advice to friends...sheesh..did I really know what I was talking about? Or only in theory??]
Maybe this is why the Brits have a 'gap year'.
Honestly, I've burned out for the present time. Continually over committing myself out of a great sense of duty and if I can do it, then I should do it! makes me afraid of any obligations, like visiting teaching. I would volunteer for everything, saying no would mean I was unrighteous in some way. [No, I did not pull that from doctrine of course, but from this honorable, yet over zealous work ethic from my paternal lineage]. When I was in Hong Kong, I was ALL OVER the city, meeting up with missionaries, attending baptisms, wards, extra meetings, visiting, instead of resting (but in a tiny matchbox apartment shared by 4 gals, there wasn't room for 'resting', and jogging the same, lonely but beautiful trails with only my thoughts to keep me company; for though I liked meeting people, I was afraid of feeling obligated to jog with them every day and make more commitments.
And let's not talk about college so much right now...yes, I learned so much, and had many incredible learning and life experiences and made unforgettable friends, but the pressure I put on myself to do EVERYTHING was just painful. It wasn't until my last semester or two that I experimented with saying 'No' to requests to check friends' English papers in the middle of the night upon the recommendation of a friend..
But back to Mom's words.
Drawn, or driven. Driven or drawn. I asked what she meant.
Why not take the time and really learn to relax, and do explore things..possibilities for the future, but at night, let your subconscious work on it.
I mentioned that doing creative things, where I can solve problems, really appeals to me. In the past, where I've had the same thing to expect at work the next day...be it chopping pineapples (though I did get to meet nice tourists), or sitting at a desk, I dreaded it!!
When you go to sleep at night, just think of a scene from a book, or create one for yourself, and act it out. I've done that for years....maybe write a story, or book, but I don't want you to feel I am driving you to anything!! - Mom
This almost crippling sense of duty to do what would serve the most people, what would fix the most problems in the world, set up my financial future the best, look the best, whatever, has for the most part blinded and deafened me to the call of whatever I really like to do. I haven't let myself be drawn to anything because I have erroneously assumed that anything I may want to do, probably should be sacrificed for something better. I guess a lot of times I've felt that, and maybe other people do too, that a dream or an aspiration is automatically wrong because we should pick the 'higher road', the 'harder road', so we can be humbled, and honored, and grow, and serve more people....sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice. Reading this paragraph has made me realize just how twisted the adversary has made my perception of good vs. bad.
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